So everything ended happily ever after for our beloved hero and heroines – Han Solo marries Princess Leah; Princess Buttercup ended up with Westley; Allie chooses Noah; Mr. Big finally ties the knot with Carrie for reals; and so on and so forth. We can’t help but feel giddy about these happy endings. We could say, “Ahhh yes, this is how it should be” – and if they don’t end up well, take Jack and Rose, we cry buckets and feel our stomachs drop 50 stories down.
But what happened to the ladies or men who were also vying for the undivided attention and love of our favorite heroes and heroines? Like Cinderella’s two evil step-sisters, or Mr. Big’s ex wife Natasha to whom Mr. Big and Carried cheated to, or Allie’s ex fiancé Lon Hammond? What happened to them? Did they also get a happy ever-after or a shot to be the lead to their own stories?
Sometimes, we tend to forget these second-leads are also humans who have all the right to be the main lead on their own life stories. They deserve the happy ending as much as the main casts did, and I wonder if we ever truly tried to understand their side when watching a movie, or reading a book, or just even hearing a real story from our friends.
Did we try to understand why his ex-girlfriend kept on texting our friend’s current boyfriend? Did we try to walk in that mean girl’s shoes, like why was she so mean like it’s her mission in life to ruin somebody else’s life? Did we try to know why that guy we call weird tries to follow your friend anywhere? Probably not, because we most of the time, hate the second-leads. We look at these people as pathetic, creepy, people with issues.
Honestly though, we were them at one point in our lives. We were the crazy ex-girlfriend who drunk-texted our ex when obviously he has moved on. We were the mean girl/guy who lived in their own little bubble and being rude to people. We were this creepy stalker who was up-to-date with all the latest infos about the people we were crushing on etc. We were this person who’s waiting for that someone to take a glance at us and when they do, we pray that they stare intently, like what they see and run to our arms instead. As much as we are the main casts, we are also the second leads.
We know how it feels. We know why we choose to go through all that. We know why we do what we do. What happens to us? Do we get our own little happily ever after? Do we end well?
When someone rejects us to be with another person, are we going to meet someone wonderful and will make us say to the one who rejected us, ‘thank God he chose someone else’?
When everyone saw us as the mean girl who was rude and has always something to say, are we going to meet someone who will look deeper and get to know us and be interested to discover why we do what we do?
When we persistently stalk someone on social media or in real life, are we going to meet someone who stalks us secretly too?
My point is, yes we are the main casts in our lives we sometimes see as a movie and we’re definitely going to get our happy ending, but maybe not the way we always want to. When we feel like we are being the second-lead, and someone gets what we want, let’s take a step back and try to see everything in their point of view instead of hating.
And what I really want to ask all of you, who are we to judge someone for what they did, are doing and will do?
A quote from To Kill A Mockingbird best describes what I’m trying to tell you, “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.”